LOVE

Today, let's talk about love....

Love is not necessarily begins from the first sight. There are people that fall in love from the second sight, eleventh sight, One thousand two hundred thirty six sight and also even when they have looked for million times, they still do not fall in love with the person. There are love that begin with a beautiful and great meeting, but there are also love that begin with hate and bad relationship. As for true love, there are many meaning of true love. 

There are so many types of love in this world. Can you list down all the types of love that you know? Well, everyone sure knows different numbers of types of love. Maybe you know 5 types of love. Maybe your friend only know 3 types of love.

True love is not something like Romeo and Juliet love story.You have to think deeper meaning about love if you think that way. True love is when two people who love each other fall in love, end up together and live happily ever after. True love is also not like Romeo and Juliet and also Jack and Rose (TITANIC). You jump, I jump. If Juliet die, I (Romeo) will also die. It is not love.

True love is a special feeling that two people shared, where both of them love each other, protect each other, help each other, respect each other, have toleration and can always advised each other whenever they make mistakes. True love does not mean you have to be perfect to each other. When a person like you, he or she will accept you for who you are. Even if they ask you to change, it is from the bad to the good. You do not need to kill yourself just because your lover die. It is stupid. You should live on. Appreciate your life.

True love and first love are one and special in the case of Shinichi, Ran, Heiji, Kazuha, Kaito and Aoko (Detective Conan). They have special relationship; true love + first love + childhood friend. 

Shinichi and Ran

Kaito and Aoko

Heiji and Kazuha

 I have always wonder why people choose to die when their beloved one betrayed them (cheating, two-timing, just a bet on you, used you). Are they nuts? Do they think if they kill themselves, their lovers will be sad and mourning for them for the rest of their life? If they think that way, they are surely naive.

Maybe you can say that it is hard to forget that love. Of course it is hard. Do you think it is easy as ABC to erase the feeling that you have for the person that you have love wholeheartedly? It is not easy to forget your first love even when you are with your new love. It is not easy, but you can take it slowly. Forgetting the past love slowly. One of the way is to let off the person that you love. Second, you should be an optimistic person. Think that one day, you will meet your soul mate. Time will decide everything.

If you have unrequited love, you should be proud. The unrequited love can also be considered as a true love, but.... with a few conditions. For example; the love story between Mikan, Natsume and Ruka (Gakuen Alice). Ruka has an unrequited love to Mikan as Mikan and Natsume love each other. Mikan is Ruka's true love. Why???

Ruka really loves Mikan. So do Natsume. But seeing that Mikan loves Natsume, his own best friend for years; Ruka makes a decision to back off from the love. Because Ruka loves her, he decides to give Mikan the best happiness in the world. And the happiness of her can be give by Natsume only. But, don't you think Ruka also gives happiness to Mikan? Instead of planning to take Mikan away from Natsume, Ruka chooses to gives up his feeling for her. He chooses to hide his love for her. He chooses to support the feelings that Mikan has for Natsume and cheer for both of them. To let the girl that he loves to choose to be with even the chosen one is not him, it requires a great sacrifice and maybe a broken heart. But that is what true love is. It is does not necessary for you to be with the person that you love to be considered as true love, Even by wishing the best happiness for the person that you love, can be considered as true love. 

Do you have your first love? Who is that person? First love is a special feeling that you will experience when you fall in love for the first time in your life.

This is always happen in shoujo manga. Maybe a few in the real life. In manga, whenever the girl fall in love with the main guy (first love of course), she surely will end up with the guy in the end. In real life, the percentage is quite low. Maybe you have you first love during your secondary school. But... instead of marrying the first love in the secondary school, maybe you will end up marrying your co-worker when you are working.

First love does not mean that will be your partner for the rest of your life. That is why even if you heart broken because of that first love, you do not need to be that pessimistic by saying that you can not live without her/him. You do not need to choose death. One day, there will be time when you will fall for a new person. You may be disappointing with the second love and fall in love for the third time. But, the person that will be with you for the rest of your lives might be the sixth guy that you have fall for.

Take Kira, Athrun, Lacus and Cagalli (Gundam Seed) for your example. 

Kira's 1st love - Flay 

Lacus's 1st love - Athrun

Athrun's first love - Lacus

Cagalli's first love - Kira (I guess)

But finally, Kira ends up with Lacus and Athrun ends up with Cagalli. You may think that Athrun and Lacus are a good match at first. But, it turns out that Athrun is better with Cagalli. Athrun is suitable with the stubborn Cagalli. The ultimate coordinator,Kira, of course suitable with the most influential people in Plant, Lacus. Just look at their characteristics with each other. Kira has always be calm when he is with Lacus as Lacus always supports him and fress his mind from problems. As for Cagalli, even she is stubborn, she shows the other gentle and feminine part of her when she is with Athrun. She listens to Athrun even sometimes she has her own opinions. Shin ends up with Luna although his first love is Stellar.

p/s: God has created a partner for each of us. You do not need to find your partner, because eventually there will be time when you'll meet each other. When you don't end up with the person that you love, that does not mean everything is over. You do not end up with the person because there is someone that is better match for you rather than that person. Someone who will love you more and someone who suits you better in every aspect. And the person that you love; surely will be together with someone that is better than you and suits him and knows him better than you. Do not give up to your life just because of this.