I think it is hard for me to be with my family when I am getting older. This is because when I study in university, I have to stay away from the house a.k.a hostel. Whatever happened at my house during the time that I stayed in the hostel, I will never know 100%. That is why I am happy to have this long semester break. I am fully aware what happened to each family member in my house. If I stayed at the hostel, I have to call or message them to know about their health and everything.
Actually, I am not here to talk about my family. I post this to talk about family in general.
For the readers who still has family, we are lucky to still have family in our life. There are people in this world who has lost their family. That is why we have to treat our family nicely, whether they are elder or youngsters. How do you treat your family? Good? Bad? Moderate? When you still have time to live in this world, care for your family as best as possible as you may not know what will happen in the future. Maybe you will leave them before they leave you.
For parents, no matter how busy you are, find some time in a week to spend with your family. Have a picnic with your children or watching movie together. Or at least, have dinner or lunch with them everyday. That will be a great memory that you spend with you entire family. Don't be too busy with the work. If you are too busy, maybe you will neglect your children. It does not matter for the children even if you give them this world but you can not be with them. It will be useless. Children, no matter how big they are, they still need love from the parents. Because of you, they were born in this world.
Every parents has expectations to their kids, but please don't push them too much. They may be stress if you expect more than what they can give you. Because... every person has their own capability. The most important thing is you have to always advice them, give support to them so that they will be successful in their life. Do not ALSO neglect child that are not advanced as other child. Treat them equally. If you spend more time towards the children that have larger potential in their life, the other child might feel that he or she is useless. there will be exist some kind of hate towards you, the parents and also the siblings. Your bond as a family may be break because of this.
Take Kyouya Ohtori (Ouran high School Host Club) as an example. Just because he is the third child, the possibility of him to be the successor in his family is very low. He have to compete with his two big brother to show his father that he is also qualified to be the successor of Ohtori Family.
For the children, do your job as a child towards your parents and siblings. Treat them nicely up to the point that you will never regret about the way you treat them when they have gone. Do not be rude to them. Talk nicely even when they have done something wrong to you. Be polite to the elders. Understand? :)
You know, you should treat them nicely when they are still in this world. So do you. Rather than always fighting or do your own business, why don't you try to be a happy and peaceful family? You can create a lot of good memories with them. The memories that can make you happy even after years have passed. But that does not mean that you can not have sibling's fight. Actually, when you have siblings fight, you will grow closer to each other. (That also does not mean that you have to fight with your siblings to make them closer to you. Take a look at situation and time and also surroundings.)
Repay what your parents have done to you in order to educate you. Please don't be an insolent child. Just because you are already grown up and have work, that does not give you any power to raise your voice towards your parents or send them to the old people house because you do not have time to take care of them. It is super-duper-hyper bad to make your parents sad especially cry.
Parents and children are combination of a family. Then you have to add strong bond, happy and peaceful life, loving character to make the family to be more complete. You can add any elements if necessary to make your family complete and happy.
"Parents can take care of 100 children, but no one can guarantee that the 100 children can take care of the parents"
"Children are as fragile as a glass. To ensure that the glass is safe and lost lasting, it is better to put the glass in the place with the best conditions"
That is all for now. There are many things that I have not mention to you, find by your own the missing piece in this post. :()
Goodbye... Have a nice day...
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